It's Official: I'm over it.
I'm not Buddha. As I've stated before, I'm not a very patient man, It's something I need to work on. These comments from self proclaimed "infertiles" are, well, pathetic. I was going to post a hearty "Fuck You" but Julie and I talked about it, and there are actually a couple interesting things I thought of. There are some of you that I shudder to think that you may someday have a child. Are you going to transfer all your hate and venom to your kids? Are you going to teach them to intrude on other people's lives? Will you teach them that procreation is a bad thing, and make them feel horrible when they get pregnant?
In reading some of the comments on the last two posts I made, It's clear that some people just don't get it. It's like, as Julie said, that these people have found a beacon of sorts in which to direct their anger. I'm young, I'm having a baby effortlessly, I have a great relationship with my partner, and I was recently given a business. This, apparently has caused stress for some of you people. You know what? I don't care.
There is one comment I'd like to address. Some anonymous coward asked (I'm paraphrasing) if I would expect a blind man to not be bitter just so I wouldn't feel bad when he ran into walls. First off, blind people seldom run into walls, they have those little sticks. Secondly, do not compare your plight with someone who is blind, concentrate on your own issues without minimizing other peoples burdens. Thirdly, yes, I would tell him to be less bitter. There is no reason to be hateful, regardless of your situation. There are people with TS that I say the same things to. This woe-is-me bullshit that is constant from some of these people is tiring and pathetic. Let it go for fuck sake.
So this is it I've been thoughtful, I've tried to see things the way you people see them and you keep attacking me. That's fine because most of you are cowards who either don't leave names and links for me to reply to you, or you make up names in attempts to use my words against me, like "your aunt." You wanted to get to me? You got to me. In the interest of keeping this blog honest and exposing my naked self; you got to me. I'm annoyed, I'm aggravated and I'm frustrated that you people just don't seem to get it. And wrong as this may be, It makes me far less sympathetic. I don't care who you are or what you've been through, if you're an asshole, you're an asshole. Now it's over. This blog is supposed to be about my feelings of transitioning into parenthood, and I don't see any of those feelings coming out the last few days. All of you so-called "infertiles" (and the sister of an infertile) can fuck off now, 'cause I'm closed for business. You can find somewhere else to get your daily fix of drama to spice up your mundane lives. You can go somewhere else to spit your cowardly anonymous vitriol. Kitchen's closed. The bottom line is, this debate has run its course; it just isn't interesting anymore.
Now for some positive news: I got my first internet "Fuck you!" how exciting! It's always nice, as a writer, to know that you've touched nerves in people. That is truly the only way to know that your writing has been effective. I'm touched, really.
posted by Jaileer @ 8:14 AM
5 Comments:
Honestly, you're fascinating in your self-involvement. I certainly hope you keep blogging--I need a good laugh.
Let me just get beyond my feelings on the issue of how you treated Amy. The fact is, you're considering taking a woman who is not your wife far away from her family at a time when she needs them (and will need them even more) so you can do a job you don't even know that you can do, what with your issues. Perhaps you should grow up and think about that?
By the way, you are not the first idiot to procreate after months and months of unprotected sex. Get over yourself.
HOLY SHIT GIVE THE MAN A BREAK you are all a bunch of BITTER LOSERS. My name is Watkins and I started reading this blog before any of you.
The funny thing is that you all are tearing this guy to shreds and it's funny because you're doing it because you have problems and are just looking for an outlet for your anger. The angrier you get, the more ridiculous you all seem!
Tim, please man, have a good laugh at this. Be proud your writing has caused such a stir. And I hope you keep writing because I love your shit and am a supporter of you through and through. Where can I find you if you stop this blog.
Respectfully,
Watkins
Hi, I've been following this for a few days since I saw the link on Amy's blog, and I just have to giggle. I follow her blog because she is adopting, like myself, after living with infertility. I have also been in the position of Amy in that my sisters have no trouble conceiving. So I can see where she is coming from.
However, I think that the way you are being flamed is quite funny. Not funny that it is causing your family stress, but the fact that people not even involved are trying to tell you how to feel. If I have learned one thing from my experience with infertility, it is that everyone's experience is different, therefore we all deal with it differently. Some people never lose their bitterness, some people lose themselves in adoption, and some people don't give up with treatments.
I guess what I want to say is, don't quit your blog because people are flaming you. If it bothers you, then you can delete their comments or not allow comments on your posts. Don't let their attacks bring you down.
I have bitterness too, but I don't use it take away from other people's happiness, that's cruel.
So here is what I say to friends who become pregnant, "Good Luck."
Oh, I had to comment about marriage too. My husband proposed to me just 6 weeks after I had been divorced. I was terrified, but I loved him so much that I said yes. Marriage was a huge step for us because we both felt that we didn't need our feeling validated by a piece of paper. However, we did want to validate to each other our feelings. That is why we got married (almost 7 /12 years now). And if I may give some assvice, I would suggest going to see a lawyer to set up a Living Will or Medical Directive stating that(for each of you) you each have the authority to make medical decisions for the other in the case that you are not able to. Especially with Julie being pregnant, it's a base I would not leave unguarded.
Good Luck.
Wait, you're saying i'm self-involved because I have a blog? Congratulations, Captain Obvious, you win the "No Shit" award of the day! Now how 'bout you have the courage to log in with your real login ID so we can take a look at what your pathetic life (I.E. blog) looks like. No? I thought not.
Kevin Federline's Daddy? That's the best you can come up with? perhaps you should steer your child (if/when you ever have one) towards working with his hands, because creativity certainly doesn't run in the family.
Let's get a couple things clear, shall we? I'm not CONSIDERING moving my beloved girlfriend away from her family, I'm GOING to move her. you see, I know it might not work this way in whatever in-bred state you're from, but sometimes people move away from their parents! *GASP* 'tis true. By the way, it isn't to "do a job i don't know that [I] can do," it's to OWN a business I KNOW I can improve. Since you don't know me, you don't realize certain things. one thing that is salient is that I don't fail. I never have, and I never will. It's the curse of the gifted, I suppose. I'm sure you have NO idea of what I'm talking about, so whatever.
I'm obviously not the only idiot that procreated as evidenced by YOUR presence on MY blog; however, I AM having a baby - are you jealous? That's the only reason i can think of that you would be so angry. Before you suggest anything to anyone, perhaps you should solve the anger issues you have? To quote from your bible (because let's face it: anyone who has as much anger and righteous indignation as you MUST be a "Christian"), "Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye." Bad grammar aside, that's YOUR God, perhaps you should take note. By the way, It's Matthew 7:5. It's 15 years of going to church 6 times a week that has prepared me well for theological discussions with dogmatic hypocrites. It's Mrs. Jackson if you're nasty...
let me just reiterate: If you're too much of a pussy to leave a flame that can be traced back to you, don't bother. Otherwise, flame away!
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