"Right between the eyes"

So my mom's boyfriend just called me and said that for a baby shower gift, he and my mother would like to give me an ad agency. That sounds so weird to read, but it's true. I'm not talking about some New York ad behemoth, of course, but I am talking about an established agency in Ft. Wayne, Indiana, and therein lies the problem. You see, we live in Long Beach, California. We have a condo that is 5 blocks from downtown Long Beach with shops, concert venues, restaraunts and a gym all within walking distance; not to mention the ocean which is 2 blocks west. We've spent the last three years together living in one of the beach communities of Los Angeles, and we both love it. I couldn't believe my ears when Dan told me. I mean, it's my dream to be a business owner, I truly feel that it is the only way to get ahead in this society. I didn't have any words, I had to talk to my mom, I tried telling them I couldn't accept it...so he decided to "throw in" a house. crazy! I told them that of course i would have to discuss it with Julie, and I'd call them back.

My mind is swimming, I don't know what to do! I don't want to leave Long Beach, and I don't want to live in Ft. Wayne, Indiana, but how often does someone give you a fully functional business? I called Julie, still feeling overwhelmed, and a little spacey and, well, things didn't go well. When I told her about the offer she was stunned, and when I told her about moving, she started to cry. That was not what I expected. Full disclosure: I don't deal well with crying women. Never have, I imagine I never will. I suppose I don't deal well with crying men, either, but that's not really relevant right now. I was really incredulous as to why she was crying; i just didn't get it! This, of course, made her cry more. I started to get a little defensive and, to be fair, I didn't handle the situation well at all. Perhaps a little more finesse could have staved off what happened next: a full fledged breakdown. She was sobbing and trying to talk, I couldn't understand her, she got irritated because i couldn't understand her which made her cry harder which made it even harder to understand her, it was vicious. Then she wants to know if the business will be 50/50 in her name. Logically, i guess that's a legitimate question but here we are, 2 days after finding out she's pregnant, and she's questioning my commitment to her. She said, "well, I know the baby would be taken care of, but if I can't afford to live in Indiana, I'd have to move." At this point, things got personal. She knows that my greatest fear is having a woman take my child away from me, and that is why she said it.

Let's be honest: if you can't afford to live in Indiana, you can't afford to live in Southern California. I have a 3 bedroom 2 bathroom house in Denver, CO. that cost $210,000. The 2 bed 2 bath condo we live in goes for around $400,000, and it's a glorified apartment! i don't know what to think at this point. I am now having a baby with a woman that, despite all of her previous protests to the contrary, is capable of taking my baby from me. In the last three days I've found out that I'm going to be a father, and had someone offer to give me a house and a business, yet at this moment, i feel no joy.